A friend died last week.
After hearing the news, memories flooded me – John installing a ceiling fan with my husband with a “blind leading the blind” type of sit com hilarity and for many years that fan rattled every time they turned it on, early morning coffees together on Saturday morning, solving the world’s problems and John showing us his new car while proudly announcing it was time to find a wife. I smile remembering John.
Valuing our friends shouldn’t only come when we lose someone.
The past few years I have been trying to reconnect with friends from the past. When I wrote my new years resolutions this year, that wasn’t one of them – I have added it so once again friendship will be a priority for me. Making time for friends will be a permanent addition to my list.
Two of my best friends met in kindergarten. I was the latecomer joining them in sixth grade. Wendy and Chrissy are lifelong childhood companions, now more like special sisters to me.
My friend Nancy is my role model for being a terrific grandmother. Elma and Barb taught how to be a kind mother.
Johnnie, Laura, Clella and Karen, writer buddies full of encouragement, guidance and support.
College companions – Herb, Kathy, Don, Margie, MaryAnn, Jan- who have walked with us through the ups and downs of life.
I received a Christmas card from a roommate from college that I haven’t seen probably in 30 years. She wants to get together this summer. Yes is my answer. I will make time to reconnect.
I asked a group of people a few years ago – do you have many lifelong friends? Most of them replied no. Many said they don’t take the time to nurture friendships. A few said the end result was loneliness.
This walk in life is long, treacherous and sometime scary. The two friends walking on the road to Emmaus experienced together as their world turned upside down by the death of Jesus, then set right again by his presence. God gives us friends, companions for our journey – a gift I don’t want to neglect or ignore.
“A wise person wins friends.” Proverbs 11:30b (NLT)
“Friends come and friends go, but a true friend sticks by you like family.” Proverb 18:24 (The Message)
“Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work.” Ecclesiastes 4:9 (NIV)
“I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete. My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends. You are my friends if you do what I command.”. John 15:11-14 (NIV)
Do you any lifelong friendships? How will you nurture friendship in your life this year?