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Spiritual Listening or Half Listening?

September 4, 2009 By Jean Wise

I nodded and pretended to be fully listening as my husband shared a story with me. The truth was I was listening to the noise inside of me – “Oh, I forgot to tell him that….I need to get that done before bedtime….I wonder how much longer is on the timer before supper is done….”

Not really listening, was I? And I am trained as a spiritual director, one who listens intently to another’s spiritual walk. HA! I am failing at basic listening skills lately.

I would wager many of you don’t fully hear another person either. We get too busy planning what we will say next or thinking about our to-do lists. And adding to the internal commotion, all the external noise that interferes with effective communication – blaring sounds from the television, chirping as emails arrive, and the boom-booming from the CD player.

To be a good listening, I need to be silent. An anagram rearranges or unscrambles the letters of one word to create a new word. Use the word silent as an anagram and the result is: SILENT = LISTEN.

What a wonderful gift we can give each other – to attentively listen to what is said and what is not being said. To listen with both our ears and our heart is to be fully present to another human being. People have a great need to be heard as a real person, a person who merits attention and respect. Tragically we miss opportunities all the time to affirm each other through listening.

The challenge today for you and for me is to evaluate how well we are really listening to:
• God – Is his still quiet voice telling us something?
• Others – Who right in front of us is begging to be heard?
• Ourselves – Is our body or our spirit trying to convey a message?
• The earth – Is nature showing us a need?

What is interfering with us hearing others?
• Our own egos – our chattering internal conversations, trying to outdo someone in a discussion? Listen to yourself listening.
• The world – the noisy values of a fallen world distracting us from the people around us?
• The media – the sounds of the news, music, and internet plugging our ears and hearts?

On a scale of 1-10, how well are you really listening?

Verses to ponder:

Let the wise listen and add to their learning and let the discerning get guidance– Proverbs 1: 5 (NIV)

My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me. John 10:27 (NIV)

My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry. James 1:19 (NIV)

Grant me, Oh Lord, to know what I ought to know, to love what I ought to love, to praise what delights you most, to value what is precious in your sight, to hate what is offensive to you. Do not allow me to judge according to the sight of my eyes, nor to pass sentence according to the hearing of my ears; but to discern with a true judgment between things visible and spiritual and above all things, always to inquire what is the good pleasure of your will. – Thomas A Kempis

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Comments

  1. blankJohnnie says

    September 11, 2009 at 4:08 am

    Jeanie, thanks for such an inspiring message. I don’t know if I ever thought of the silent/listen anagram before. Please include that little gem in your after-hours workshop. (You know, you’ve got to do one.)

  2. blankKaren says

    September 5, 2009 at 7:37 pm

    This is a good one Jeanie. Gone are the days of sitting on the porch with friends and a minted iced tea just to talk. There is so much around us, so fast, we feel our conversations should be that way too.

    Thanks for that needed reminder.

  3. blankClella says

    September 4, 2009 at 2:19 pm

    Well I think I will print this one and put it up for a day or two. You do so “hit me”. Thanks. Blessings Clella

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