Ever think back about who helped you when you were first learning something new? Who made you feel welcomed in a new area? Who gave you confidence to keep trying? Who left you never ever the same?
I met Kathy Collard Miller at a CLASS workshop eons ago when I was just trying to figure out if this inkling to write and speak might be a direction God was calling me. Kathy was my small group leader who led us, modeled for us, encouraged us and gave us the tools and hope to take the risk. I am a writer and speaker today because of her and am honored to host her here today as a guest blogger.
Kathy and her husband, Larry, have just released a new book, Never Ever Be the Same and I can certainly vouch for her skills and expertise in this area.
Welcome to Healthy Spirituality, Kathy!
What’s Your “Walker”?
by Kathy Collard Miller and Larry Miller
One Christmas when my ninety-year-old mother-in-law, Audrey, lived with us, our then-three-year-old grandson, Raf, was fascinated with Audrey’s walker. As he walked (or ran!) away with it, Audrey became visibly anxious calling out to him, “Don’t take away my walker. I need it. I’m dependent upon it. I’m just an old woman, so don’t hurt it.”
I felt sad to think Audrey believed we wouldn’t help her and that she was on her own. She felt she had to call after Raf and try to control him. But she didn’t have the strength to retrieve the walker or follow Raf to supervise. My husband, Larry, and I, on the other hand, could do something and we decided that Raf couldn’t play with it because it caused her too much anxiety.
We each have our own kind of “walker” that we believe we require in life to meet our needs. We demand from people or things, “Don’t take away my idol. I need it. I’m dependent upon it. I’m just an incompetent Christian, so don’t hurt it.” Our idol may be a relationship, an accomplishment, our reputation…pick which “walker” you believe you need for your security and happiness.
But our idol never satisfies. Only God can provide and protect us sufficiently.
This article is excerpted from Never Ever Be the Same (Leafwood Publishers), which offers Christians hope that they can change their ungodly reactions through identifying their self-protective strategies and trusting God instead. The authors are Kathy Collard Miller and Larry Miller and includes biblical principles, insightful stories, and helpful instruction. It has individual and group discussion questions.
Kathy Collard Miller and Larry Miller are speakers and authors. They have been married 44 years and Larry is a retired police lieutenant. The Millers live in Southern California, and have two grown children and one grandson. Visit them at www.LarryAndKathy.com. Kathy blogs at www.KathyCollardMiller.com.
Never Ever Be the Same is available at your local Christian bookstore and in both print and digital versions at: