I reached my step goal one day last week and as I glanced at my Fitbit shooting up fireworks my little device exclaimed, “Well done!” I smiled. Even my Fitbit knows my word of the year! “Well.” Since this word began to draw my attention and gnaw at my soul, I have been focused more on the use of “well” as in water well. Good image but time to explore a new perspective. Here are a few rambling thoughts about well done. What is Well Done? Some insights from others about “well done.” “Better a little which is well done, than a great deal imperfectly.” Plato “Well done is better than well said.” Benjamin Franklin. Well done reminds me of the Bible story found in Matthew 25 called the parable of the talents: “The master said, ‘Well done, my good and faithful servant. You have been faithful in handling this small amount, so not I will give you many more responsibilities. Let’s celebrate together!’” Matthew 25:23 NLT Deep down I really do … [Read more...]
I Am Becoming a Person Who…
I am becoming a person who… how would you complete this open-ended sentence? As a spiritual director I like to collect prompts like this one plus wonderful assortment of thought-provoking questions to use as I listen in sacred space with another soul. I often find these nudges also linger into my heart too. What a good spiritual practice to try that invites a quiet reflection and life review. I like the emphasis on the word “becoming” as it gives me hope in what could be and permission to try again when I fail. Here are a few of my reflections on where I am at this season of my life: I am becoming a person who notices and names her emotions better now as I live in this second half of my life. I am becoming a person who is learning to value being with people even as an introvert. I am becoming a person who knows her limits and boundaries. I am becoming a person who knows herself well enough to know it's important to keep showing up even when I don’t feel like … [Read more...]
Four Somethings – Muddy Spring Edition
I believe strongly in the practice of reflection, pausing, rereading, pondering where you are, where you have come from and where is God inviting you into next. Time to hear your own deep yearnings and to realize God’s presence in every moment of your life. Four Somethings is the spiritual practice of remembering, reviewing, and savoring life’s lessons and sacred moments in our lives. So occasionally I share bits of wisdom in four categories. Gathering Four Somethings makes me aware of all the blessings often hidden under busyness, worries, and distractions. These “somethings” become markers in our spiritual journey. With so much pivoting and uncertainty in our lives right now, being grounded in a simple practice like this guides my way. Here are my spring “somethings.” Read ahead and you will see it could also be called the Muddy Edition. I didn’t intentionally start to have this muddy theme but it slowly emerged and I realized mud has been teaching me … [Read more...]
Scriptural Searching for My Word of the Year
“Well” is my word of the year and I wondered this month about how “well” is used throughout the Bible. So far this year I have been discovering “well” as a place of water. Picture an actual well with a bucket kind of visual. Depending on the version of the Bible, well can be read anywhere from 300-600 times. Most references refer to wells that provided water. Another use is the familiar verse, “Well done, good and faithful servant.” Matthew 25: 21. Wells of course, were places to supply water but also served as a place of social gathering. A source of meeting someone in community and receiving strength and renewal. For example, Jacob met Rachel at a well where she came to water her father Laban’s flock of sheep (Gen 29:1-11). Moses, too, met his future wife, Zipporah, at a well when she came with her sisters to water their father’s flock (Exodus 2:15-22). After Hagar fled from Sarai, an angel of the Lord appeared to her at a well where he revealed to her the name of her … [Read more...]
Silly Me – Getting Excited Over the Little Stuff
Silly me. The email pinged into my mailbox. The anticipated package would arrive the next day. I giggled. “It’s coming,” I shouted to the empty house. Like a kid the day before Christmas, I nervously tremble with excitement. What was this all about? Ok, I will tell you, but please don’t roll your eyes at me (Ok you probably will). My pending package? My 2025 calendar. I know, I know this is all so silly, but I do love planning, organizing, and getting that new calendar each year. Usually, I find and order one in midsummer but this year, 18 months 24–25-year calendars from the Happy Planner Store became available to order in March. By the third week in March, I could have my new calendar. And 30% off, too. I know the 30% sale is part of my rationalization to order. Part of me feels guilty getting so thrilled over something so trivial. I almost didn’t write this as a blog post – worried what would YOU think? Should I … [Read more...]
What are Your Essential Spiritual Practices?
“I am amazed on how you continue to write in your journal,” Jo said during my group spiritual direction group. “I have learned the hard way,” I answered, “I am more lost, more scattered, find myself drifting aimlessly without this practice. I need to journal.” I thought about my words as I drove home - a statement of fact about how the spiritual practice of journaling grounds my life and brings me closer to God. I smiled remembering how my answer to her just tumbled out of my mouth. I didn’t just enjoy journaling, wanting to journal, but I needed, deeply craved/required, this discipline. What are your essential spiritual practices? Sometimes I feel like a toddler searching for her lost blanket – tangible connecting points for this little child of God to touch her Master. Finding the practices that come naturally to each of our own spiritual personalities and naming them – will help ground us and hold us especially in difficult times. For me as I wrote above, journaling is … [Read more...]
What Wondrous Love is This Hymn Story
We sang “What Wondrous Love is This” last week during our Lenten service. Both the music and lyrics haunted me – so lovely and meaningful and full of love. This hymn invites us to pause and ponder the wonderful love from God and the gift of grace. The music is based on an American folk hymn of unknow origin. It is known, however, that the tune was discovered by composer William Walker on his journey through the Appalachian region of America and probably dates to the early 1800s. Though the tune had been around for many years, it was passed on by rote, and not written down. The Appalachian region is well known for having many Irish and Scottish immigrants, which is shown in the hymns haunting text and minor tune. We actually are not sure who wrote the lyrics either – researchers write several stories, but someone somewhere created a masterpiece to refresh our souls. It was used often as a camp song and was very popular during the Second Great … [Read more...]
Practical Discernment Tools from a New Book by Emily P Freeman
One of my favorite authors, Emily P Freeman, just released a new book, How to Walk into a Room. The host of a wonderful weekly podcast too, Emily accompanies us as we discern the decisions we face in life. As a spiritual director, discernment is often the doorway that directees seek an appointment with me - they are at the crossroad. Do I stay? Or do I leave? And how will I know? Emily’s new book is a practical tool for discernment, full of helpful clarifying questions. Here is her description of the contents: “If life were a house, then every room holds a story. What do we do when a room we’re in is no longer a room where we belong? What do you do when you start to feel a shift and must decide if it’s time to make a change? When it comes to navigating big decisions about when to stay and go, how can we know for sure when the time is right? Though we enter and exit many rooms over the course of our life—jobs, relationships, communities, life stages—knowing how and … [Read more...]