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My Conditional Love and God’s Unconditional Love

November 19, 2009 By Jean Wise

Once a month I help to facilitate the spiritual formation of a small group of people called to be spiritual directors. This past weekend we discussed Gerald May’s book Will and Spirit. This book fed my soul and mind in numerous ways, but one section in particular resonated in my heart.

Buried in the middle of his chapter on love, he lists ways we get confused about our understanding of love.

One obstacle May writes is “expecting unconditional love from human beings” and the second one: “expecting conditional love from God.”

Suddenly upon hearing those phrases, though among many, I sat alone with God. What does this mean, Lord? Why did those phrases so deeply touch my spirit?

Expecting unconditional love from human beings will set us up for failure, anger, bitterness and discouragement. We just can’t do it as humans, yet I know I have too many times sought that connection with others fully expecting to find what I am hungering for. Then I begin to wonder: what did I do wrong? What can’t that person love me for who I am? Didn’t he/she notice that upset me? I really do appreciate the love and support I receive from my family and friends, but the reality is this type of love is never perfect.

Expecting conditional love from God is another false step I continually take. Even though I have been told and fully believe in God’s unconditional love for me, my image of God lingers as a judge sitting at a distance whose love I need to earn. I know better, but still am amazed how often I find myself acting differently.

Divine love is present for all of us and is totally out of our control and will. He does love us all unconditionally.

He lavishes his love upon us. How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are! 1 John 3:1 (NIV)

May writes, “The prospect of really being loved no matter who we are, how we are or what we do is so humbling that in spite of its reassurance, it terrifies us.”

I sat in that room alone with my thoughts as the class continued to discuss this book. I was no longer in Toledo Ohio but on a dusty road with the prodigal son, seeing with my human heart God running towards me, wrapping his accepting arms around me and welcoming me into his unconditional loving heart.

Thank you, Loving Lord.

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  1. blankMelinda says

    November 21, 2009 at 8:00 pm

    Beautiful post, Jeanie. That concept really resonates with me as well. I am so guilty of having that mindset. I am so thankful that He doesn’t live down to our expectations!

  2. blankColleen says

    November 21, 2009 at 6:58 pm

    I recognize myself in here. Expecting conditional love of God. I know in my head He loves us no matter what. But I get caught up in the judgement thing. Thanks for reminder.

  3. blankKaren says

    November 19, 2009 at 9:36 pm

    Conditions, conditions, isn’t that how we live our lives? I guess we need to with everything but God. Great post Jeanie.

  4. blankJean Wise says

    November 19, 2009 at 2:16 pm

    Thank Clella. I am just being honest with my own struggles on the spiritual journey and am glad I am walking with others, like you

  5. blankKINDRED HEART WRITERS says

    November 19, 2009 at 12:45 pm

    I am often amazed at how you touch the core of my heart just when I need it. Love Clella
    (I removed the first post because I had left out a word 🙂

  6. blankKINDRED HEART WRITERS says

    November 19, 2009 at 12:43 pm

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