You are more fun than bubble wrap! You're so thoughtful. Thank you for being my friend and listening. You are making a difference! Compliments – wow they can make our day, don’t they? January 24 is National Compliment Day and a reminder to share compliments because they can change the world. The power of a compliment is pretty remarkable: either giving or receiving one can boost your happiness and confidence — making the act a win-win. You never know when someone could use some good vibes, so spread the positivity by giving someone a reason to smile! "A compliment is verbal sunshine." – Robert Orben Ever have one of those down days, but then you receive a compliment from someone that turns your mood around? While compliments may seem simple, they can have a large impact on you and the people around you, creating a ripple of positivity. I like that image – a ripple of positivity. Our brains are wired to receive the words of a compliment at the same level … [Read more...]
2026 Word of the Year
The spiritual practice of choosing a word of the year has been lifegiving for me. One word, a theme for the year, guides me when I get lost in the fog of to do’s and calendar demands and overwhelmed by the news. One word to remind me who I am, whose I am, and what I am called to do. One word that acts as a trellis, supporting me, stretching me, and sustaining me. Each year this word finds me; I don’t really discover it. Funny, isn’t it? Sometimes a word arrives loudly like last year’s word – courage – did for me. This year was quieter. About mid-November I began making a list of possible words I would read or hear that seemed to attract me. As the weeks went on, I would circle ones on that list that continued to shimmer in my soul. Sometimes in December I narrowed the list down to a few candidates including one that whisper to me in a dream one night – unusual for me as I rarely remember dreams. The one finally rose to the top, often consolidating some of the themes found … [Read more...]
Good-Bye 2025
December 31 welcomed me in silence. I opened my journal for my year-end ritual of what I call harvesting my journal. I slowly reread and reviewed the past year, making note of patterns, highlights, growths, lessons, wisdoms and the many points where I should have known better. Often I smile. Sometimes I cry. Usually, I feel God’s presence as we walk together reflecting on the past 12 months. This year my imagination felt as if I was given a beautiful basket and was invited into a large open meadow. We slowly gathered an array of flowers, different sizes and colors. Soon my basket overflowed with memories and my heart with gratitude for all 2025 provided. Some flowers though brought thorns that jabbed my fingers and reopened wounds again. But in the end, I held the most delightful exquisite bouquet you could imagine. What a sight to behold. I heard God whisper, “Slow down. Don’t rush through this liminal time from one year to the next.” And I will obey this call. I will savor … [Read more...]
A Blessing
A Blessing May cherished memories of last year yield healing, joy, and wisdom. May the dark times sprinkle your tears watering growth in the new year. May the light of friends, present and from beyond, guide your next steps. May delightful muses dance in your dreams bringing whimsey and life to each day. May your heart be open and willing to embrace new adventures with faith. May you find some silliness, a few surprises, and significant strength and resilience. May you walk with kindness in your heart towards yourself and for others. May you experience God’s lavish love in your soul, knowing how precious you are. ©Jean Wise … [Read more...]
Deep Listening
I sat around their kitchen table as they shared tear-filled stories about their wife/mother. We were gathered to plan her funeral service. The room filled with family, warmed by the afternoon sun and lots of love and wrapped with both sorrow, memories and laughter. A bittersweet meeting. I asked a few questions but most of the time I listened. I observed how they looked around, savoring the present moment they now held with each other, realizing how precious life and time is. They thanked me for listening, yet I felt they gave me a gift. They reminded me how important listening to one another can be for healing, comfort, and insight. Listening builds bridges and repairs relationships. Deep listening is also essential for listening to our own soul, for listening to ourselves too. What happens when we listen to ourselves? As a spiritual director I often encourage directees to listen deeply to their own voices, their desires, their hungers. To name them. Many … [Read more...]
The Spiritual Practice of Spaciousness
Can spaciousness be a spiritual practice? Can you cultivate spaciousness? What is spaciousness, anyway? This word entered my heart after a lovely week of relaxation and delightful weather in Florida. My body and my soul felt different. Healed. Whole. Where before the trip I was tense, depressed, and battered by many internal and external storms, a sense of tranquility surrounded me once home. The space within me, my internal spaciousness transformed. I have been on vacations before, but this one was different. I came home with more peace and this sense of fresh spaciousness. What was different? I want to learn from this time so I can carry more spaciousness into my life as I move forward. What elements did I observe? I am one who is always striving and one who likes to stay in control. I am learning as I enter this wonderful later stage of life to lesson my grip on my circumstances and to hold things lightly and be more open and adaptive. What a unique space to live and … [Read more...]
Borrowed Prayers
We can talk with God in many ways. I find just plain conversation with the Trinity like friends having coffee or lifting praise and gratitude to be essential methods for me. Written prayers, working to find just the right words to articulate my desires, sorrows, hopes in my journals are prayers. Of course, silence is also holy time. But sometimes using the words from other people connects best with God. I call these borrowed prayers. I love to gather and tuck these prayers into my journal, my Bible, and my heart. Sometimes I paraphrase them based on their framework but using my own words. Occasionally I pause at the end of one phrase unable to finish and linger in the midst of their prayer. Their words offer a branch at times to lead me into a new prayer for myself bringing insight, surprises, and peace. Here are a few of my favorite borrowed prayers: I have no idea where I am going.I do not see the road ahead of me.I cannot know for certain where it will end.nor do I really … [Read more...]
Conversations, I mean Really Good Conversations
I have been listening, no watching and learning also, how people interact and connect as they talk. Ever notice how some people engage more than others in deep conversations? They skip the small talk and dive pass the social chit-chat and really get to know others. That fascinates me. As an IFNJ, I am not good at small talk, but I am a listener. I am an observer. So I know there are tricks I can learn from those of you who are more skilled than me at conversation. Those of you who naturally draw others out in discussion - you have some techniques that we all can adopt. What are they? Here are some things I have observed: Wonder if these same concepts could apply to my prayers? Mmm, I think that works too. Deeper connections. More meaningful conversations. Works for people. Works in prayer. Just takes time. A little less ego. A sprinkle of love and paying attention and genuine caring of the other/Other. But worth it! What would you add to this list? … [Read more...]



